THE NEXT LEVEL

In their number one New York Times bestseller, ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo wrote as one of the ten signs, that if he does not want to have sex with you, then no matter what you do, he is simply not that interested in you, well, at least beyond a greeting that is.

This I have experienced, even though I was the perpetrator. I have seen a rather close male friend of mine also go through this very emotionally and physically taxing phase. When someone you are supposedly dating is not interested in seeing you naked or fantasizing about you then they could not be bothered if you are captured by aliens the next day. Ke nnete bagaetsho, nna se ke se bone ka a me matho.

Greg and Liz go on to write that when a man likes you, he wants to touch you all the time, that one of the strongest ingredients to a healthy union is sex, and that one of the great joys of life is that you get to have sex and most importantly that the last person who should be stopping you from enjoying sex is the person that you are dating.

You see, women in particular have been making countless excuses for the men as to why they do not make any attempts to have sex with them, men on the other hand do not waste too much time thinking about why a woman is not giving him sex, he quickly finds alternatives to satisfy this need. And he has every right to do so, what is the point of an intimate union with no sex? Look here ladies, if you want someone to hold hands with, watch movies with and daydream about the future with, while not having sex with them, it is very simple, get a friend, if you want a male friend, then you will just have to make sure he is gay because ga o ka ke wa sia peba le dithotse.

Fact of the matter is that there is someone dying to have hot sex with you while you are wasting your time saying you love someone; that is nice, so is loving the cat down the street. Get a pet if you want one way intimacy okay! Damn, that could be misconstrued, no beastiality here please! Kana motho o ka dira dilo!

Ask any man other than your man right now if he can happily live with a woman he is not having sex with. That is your answer. A relationship will never move to the next level without sex, even if the couple gets married, it is just an act!