OUT TO EAT

It has been a really tough week for Mpho and the last thing she wants is to be slaving over a stove making dinner and she has made this known to her man. Thankfully he gets the hint and he promises to take her out to eat instead. Bangwe ba tshela ha monate neh? But as they get out of the car and walk towards the food court in the mall he walks straight into the nearest fast food joint and asks Mpho what meal she would like. Wrong move!

Yes, it is a very nice gesture when a man offers to take you out for food but it is very crucial where he takes you because it can show whether he wants to keep you in a relationship and how much he really cares about your relationship. You see, I believe that when food is ready made and readily available, it requires little commitment from the consumer as all they have to do is shout out what they want, pay for it before they eat it and then walk out with it or sit down on some cheap chair and wolf it down. Now, there is absolutely nothing sexy about this scene.

One the other hand, a restaurant that offers freshly cooked food requires quite a lot and sometimes too much commitment from the consumer as the consumer has to order the food, patiently wait for the food, eat it and then pay the bill. This also gives the consumer a chance to query the quality of the food which he has patiently waited for and is required to pay for. If indeed he is right, he will walk out without paying as the food would have been low quality. It is almost a reverse of the take away restaurant.

Jaanong, ka go rialo, ke lemogile sengwe ka dijo tse re direkang konte tse, gothe le banna ba ba direkang. You see, according to me, a man who takes a woman to a fast food restaurant has little commitment to the relationship with that woman and wants everything to happen as quickly as possible. He wants to shout out his order of what he wants from the woman. He is willing to pay for it before he gets it because he knows that when you spend money, things tend to follow quickly. He also is likely not to care about the value of the relationship. Ke gone mo gotweng lerato la sheleng! It does not matter how much it is as long as he gets what he wants with as little money as possible. This is where he looks fro a bargain woman. Now this is a whole different story on its own, ke ta a go totela next time.

On the other hand, the man who takes his woman out to a fancy sit down restaurant is likely to have commitment for the relationship and take his time to get what he wants by ensuring the woman gets what she wants. He will be patient in gently ordering what it is he wants from her and then wait patiently for the woman to make up her mind before giving him what he wants and then getting the rewards for it. I know it all sounds complicated but it is quite simple.

Fast food restaurant is equal to a quick impatient cheap and commitment free relationship while a sit down restaurant is equal to a patient high valued and committed relationship.

Now the question that comes to mind is, ‘when your man offers to take you out for food, where does he take you, and even when he brings you some food, where is the food from? With that said, se nne sehatha sa dijo o sa itse kwa di tswang!